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Lying: Santa and the imagination

My Daughter's Father — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:40:04 GMT

This post ran a little long, so this is now the second of a four-part series. I was 5 or 6 when Santa

MDF: At long last, back to our story

My Daughter's Father — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 22:32:46 GMT

This post has been an extremely long time in coming. I’ve opined and gone on work-related tangents for

Lying: The Great White Lie

My Daughter's Father — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 21:23:35 GMT

This is the first in a three-part series. I read an article a couple weeks ago about lying to children

Crossing the child threshold

My Daughter's Father — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 21:06:55 GMT

I love picking Maddie up. Whether it’s been a few days or four weeks – as was the case when I finally

re: The Olympics: Love them

My Daughter's Father — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 06:06:42 GMT

Thanks!

Amazingly, there was only one sliver of a moment in which I thought Phelps might not get it done — that incredible .01 win. Other than that, I fully expected his victories, which I suppose really says a lot about the guy.

Keep an eye out for my next post … where I'll take a totally different tack.

re: The Olympics: Love them

mamania — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 13:52:58 GMT

I love the Olympics, too! But I must confess, I'm pretty glad they're almost over- I need some sleep!!! But at least now that The Michael Phelps Show is done, I can start growing my fingernails back!

Great post, though- I totally remember when Sarah won. It was amazing!

re: Lying: Santa and the imagination

Cheryl Lage — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 14:30:45 GMT

One of my first memories is of wanting to believe so desperately I audio-hallucinated sleighbells on our apartment's roof! The absence of chimney proved no stumbling block for Santa...sliding glass doors provided easy entry! ;)

Interestingly enough, I possess some clear hypocrisy on this issue of fantastical personages...a-ok with Santa and Tooth Fairy, but created for parental convenience characters (e.g. a binky swiping Pacifier Fairy, etc.) I find a bit lazy...parents shouldn't require a "scapegoat" to accomplish tasks unappealing or their "dirty work."

Love your blog, and thanks for your kind words to my earlier comment!

re: Lying: Santa and the imagination

Asteria — Thu, 31 Jul 2008 02:24:45 GMT

I'm always a little amazed how many kids at one point thought Santa Claus was real. My parents are very pragmatic and never implied that Santa Claus was real. My grandparents always titled presents as "from Santa" but my brother and I always knew they were from our grandparents.

I know a lot of people consider it sad that I never believed in Santa Claus. However, I don't think kids need fantastical creatures created by adults. They can create their own. I had some great tree friends that sang me to sleep outside my window almost every night for a couple of years. Much better than a once a year occurrence. Greedy little soul that I was (am?), I didn't care where the presents came from as long as I had some :)

re: Lying: Santa and others who take credit for all our hard work

My Daughter's Father — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 21:15:23 GMT

Well, it isn't that Maddie thinks Santa can't find my house … or at least, it wasn't her idea originally. That story came from management.

I've learned it's generally in Maddie's and my interest to keep the peace, so I try to pick the battles I can win. Given Maddie lives primarily with her Mom, I haven't a strong-enough foothold to dictate policy, or sometimes even negotiate.

I do appreciate your empathy.

re: Lying: Santa and others who take credit for all our hard work

mamania — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 18:46:08 GMT

I hate that Maddie thinks Santa won't come to your house - that's terrible! My divorced friends always tell their kids that what matters is where the child is - that Santa will find them. If he can do all that other business, surely he could locate her at your house???

re: Lying: The Great White Lie

My Daughter's Father — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:15:32 GMT

No, I firmly intend to take that ubiquitous and costly bicuspid burglar to task! Just kidding, to a degree … though he/she/it is costing me a fortune.

I'll be touching on all the childhood fantasy characters, though you kinda have to handle that one with, shall we say, kid gloves.

Your kids are adorable. I can't imagine twins, though I'm sure it's a lot of fun.

Thanks for the comments!

re: Lying: The Great White Lie

Cheryl Lage — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 21:37:23 GMT

YES, YES and MORE YES!

You are a wise, wise man. (And StaceyS, Rose Rock is a wise, wise woman!)

I'm with you 100%, Daughter's Father -- although I may get my come-uppance when you regale us on Santa soon... ;) (Can you have a bit of mercy on the Tooth Fairy, too? A mother of six-year-old twins is begging you!)

Great post!

re: Lying: The Great White Lie

staceys — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:23:32 GMT

Rose Rock, mother of Chris Rock, agrees with you:

www.epregnancy.com/.../I-Am-Your-Mama-Not-Your-Friend.aspx

I'd be interested to know how many others on this board have told little white lies to their children? When I worked in a restuarant I was frequently asked to reinforce parents when they said that the blender was broken so the child would have to drink milk instead of a shake...guilty by association?

re: I am nothing if not …

My Daughter's Father — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:21:42 GMT

Thank you for the great compliments! I was definitely apprehensive about broadcasting intimate details about my daughter's and my life, not to mention concerned it might not be all that interesting, and I'm thrilled you enjoyed it.

I hope I can keep your attention and interest.

re: I am nothing if not …

JupiterJenn — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:19:53 GMT

Take a deep breath! You did it...you posted your first blog! And here's the kicker...it was really good and really sweet and really thoughtful! Can't wait to read more about the adventures of your daughter's father, Maddie, and Mom. I'm intrigued :-)