Hi

My best friend just found out yesterday at her first doctor's appointment that the baby did not develop past eight weeks.  I hope I don't offend anyone here that is going through this very difficult time, but is there anything I can do to help her out. 

We were about 5 weeks apart and now I have this feeling of guilt because so far my pregnancy is going fine and hers didn't.  I am still very early in mine so I could also experience this but I really want to be there for her.

 Any advice is greatly appreciated and will keep all of you in my thoughts.

 Heather

Heather, I'm sorry to hear about your friend's pregnancy. The only advice I can give since I haven't been through that is to let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk or just hang out with. Of course that kind of news is devastating and may take a while to get over but hopefully she'll be okay and just be a great friend.

I have been in this position I was a month ahead of my friend when she lost her baby.  We have been through many things and so we were honest about the feelings, she told me she was jealous of me because I was still pregnant.  It isn't easy being a friend watching another friend going through the happiest time of your life, but keep the lines of communications open no matter how much it hurts either one of you.  It sometimes hurts hearing the truth but it is will keep your friendship strong and when it is time for you blessing let her be part of the childs life.  At least as much as she wants to be. 

Hi Heather!

My last pregnancy ended in a misscarriage and my best freind was about four months ahead of me at the time. It was really great just having someone there for me. When she had her Daughter I relished being her Autie Beth. All I can say is she just needs to know that your there and thats all you can do.

I recently had a miscarriage and my ex-roommate is pregnant she is about 6 weeks further along that what I was. I am feeling some resentment towards her and I know that its not her fault but I just cant help it. I feel cheated. I convinced her not to have an abortion when she first found out and now I am in this situation. I'm trying hard not to feel that way though and maybe voicing it is the best way. I have not talked to my friend since I found out about the blighted ovum, but it is for other reasons. I do hope to work out my feelings so that maybe I could be a part of the baby's life though. Can anyone help me?