My husband and I have been TTC #3 since January and still no luck.  It took me a while to convince him for #3 but I finally did.  Last night he told me he doesn't agree with having another baby and he thinks it would be a mistake if we have another one.  I am just so confused.  He knows how much I want another baby then just out of the blue he changes his mind and can't think of a nicer way to tell me.

I lost my brother when he was 22yrs old and I was 19 and I don't know how I would of handled it if I didn't have my younger sisters.  I try to tell him that I want a third child and that way if something god awful happens to one of our children the other isn't left alone.

I don't know what to do, should I give him what he wants and just stop trying, or should I tell him if he doesn't want anymore children he has to stop that from happening because I'm not going to do anything from preventing it?  I just worry because my parents main reason for divorce was my mom wanted more children, and my dad didn't and I don't want that to happen to us. 

I have to tell you, it sounds like you're carrying around some extra baggage. You need to remember that your parents' relationship isn't the same as yours. The reason for their divorce doesn't mean that you should fear the same thing happening in your relationship! And while it was obviously devastating to lose your brother, it doesn't mean that your babies will have to go through the same thing.

I would suggest that you try to focus on the best thing for your family now. Think about it from your husband's position, and try to be as objective as possible. It sounds like he might be confused himself, but why doesn't he want the 3rd, when it is clearly so important to you? Don't dismiss his logic, even if it seems irrational. His feelings are likely as strong to him as yours are to you!

Hopefully working it out together, the 2 of you can make the right decision for your family. And please remember that you have already been blessed with 2 children, so you're already a very lucky family!!!

Good luck! Please let us know what happens and hang in there!!!!

I have to agree with the last poster.  I understand your thinking of losing one child and having 2 others to lean on each other, however you can not think like that.  You can not predict the future or what will happen....I'm sure your husband has been wrestling with a way to tell you how he feels and I am sure he probably has a valid reason as to why he feels this way just like you have yours.  I would be so grateful for what you already have because so many just want one child....I would talk to hubby about both your feelings...go out and have some sit with kids...and reconnect.  You might find his reasons make sense when you give yourself the chance to really hear them...then again, he may change his mind.  The best thing you can do for yourself is not to live in the past and not to compare yourself with your parents.  You are not them and the future is ahead.  Enjoy every moment of it, because as you know things can change in an instant.

 Best of luck, Kim
 

Don't get me wrong I absolutly love my children more than anything in the world and I am soooo happy that I have them.  We are going to talk later tonight. 

I know how you feel. Maybe talk about not trying, and not preventing and take what god gives you. Maybe he's scared b/c of the way things are in the world right now. So many people are having money problems. G'luck!!!

Okay so after talking to my hubby the other night, he apologized for what he said and said he was just having a bad day.  One of our kids was sick and the other was just being very naughty not to mention he had a hard day at work.  He told me that he will be happy when we do get pregnant (which is good cuz I'm a week late)  I'm sure some of his stress is money related, but we always find our way and do what we have to do for our family.  Thanks everyone for your comments and suggestions.  

ooooooo, keep us posted!!!!

This is great news!  The fact that the two of you had the courage to sit down with each other and talk it out is HUGE!  Communication is a deal breaker in a marriage and I'm so glad the two of you talked this through.  One person's bad day can have a big impact on what someone else's perspective of what the future looks like is.  And with any luck, your longing for another will come to an end soon as you will be holding a bundle of joy in your arms.  I'll be praying for you.  Hope you get a BFP! 

Thanks, I should get the results of my blood work tomorrow, I just keep thinking positive!  Hopefully it will be!