This will be our thrid baby. We have two boys, whom we adore, but we are hoping for a girl this time.

With Caleb and Josh we waited to find out the sex at the birth. It was so awsome that way! I really loved the suspense.

But I have been thinking about knowing the sex beforehand this time. If it is a girl I would need to prepare in clothes and such. And if it is a boy, it'll give me some time to emotionally adjust. But then when I think about that I think that sounds so bad! I would love a another boy too!

Does anyone have a similar expereince/thoughts?
Megan

I found out with my first and decide to be surprised with the second. IF we get pregnant again, I think I will choose to be surprised again. I dont know why really ~shrugs~ just a preference. The experience in the birthroom was different and I liked it.

We are in the same boat with 2 boys and wanting a girl but DH wants one more boy before a girl. So 2 more kids for us, god willing.

I've only been surprised, so I can't really say. I will definitely wait for the next baby too.

My sister's friend has a story. Their first was a girl. With the second baby the dad really wanted a boy. So at the big ultrasound when they found out that they were having another girl, he was very disappointed. Very disappointed. He really rejected the pregnancy for several weeks. It took him a while to turn around, and didn't completely realize that what he was feeling was inappropriate (for lack of a better word :?: ) until that baby girl was born. When he saw her, he realized that every bit of disappointment he felt was foolish and selfish because the baby was just plain and simple...love. So for their third, they decided not to find out because that period of disappointment was so...shameful (sorry, I'm having a hard time with words today!). They ended up having a boy! The moral of the story is, and this is from that dad's POV, if you have any expectations or believe you will experience any disappointment, save yourself from those feelings and wait till delivery, because then...it really doesn't matter.

Something to think about! I know there are other issues to consider, but that's a true story and one that makes total sense to me.

That makes total sense to me, Cathi. I guess I was mostly thinking about MY emotional attachment to the girl gender. I was thinking that if I got an u/s and it was a boy I would have time to emotionally adjust. As I would if I had a girl. But as you mentioned, any disappointment for a healthy child is a shame. A loss of sweet time, preparing for their healthy arrival.

But you know what? I think that story is exactly what I needed to read. I loved, loved the boys the second I knew they were inside me, and was so happy to have them healthy at the birth. The surprise of not knowing was so sweet and exciting. I think that it is the way our family should continue the tradition.

Thanks, Cathi!!!
Megan

I think it's a wonderful tradition, Megan. :wink:

Each time we got pregnant I felt really strongly I was having the other sex; so I'm glad I found out during the pregnancy so I didn't go out and buy a whole bunch of the wrong stuff.  Now that I've had one of each, I'd like for my 3rd to be a surprise.  I think it would be neat to anticipate and have such an awesome memory that both me and my husband can share and cherish (neither one of us are good at trying to anticipate anything...we're more of instant gratification kind of people.)

 If I were in your shoes I would probably want to know, though.  It's a wonderful experience to find out and be able to call your child by name while still in your tummy.