I am about 9 weeks pregnant and still nursing my 14 month old.   I plan to wean my little girl by the time this next baby is due but don't really see an end in sight.  Honestly, I could be done now.  I think I'll be a little sad at first but I'd sort of like a few months of my body back before I start it all over again.  The thing is, she is such a  boob girl, I really don't see her wanting to slow down.  When she is away from me at daycare or with my husband when I work she's fine, she's not a big whole milk drinker but she's fine on solids, water and a little whole milk.  When she comes home and sees me she immediately wants to nurse.  She will stick her hands down my shirt and make this funny grunting noise until I let her nurse. I would be ok to decrease it down to just a morning and evening feeding but how do I get rid of the daytime feedings when she throws a fit if I wont let her nurse?  She will do the sign for milk too and it is just so adorable I cave every time.  Is anyone else out there still nursing and pregnant?  Do you feel like the energy is being sucked right out of you too?  How do I slowly wean a 14 month old who doesn't want to give it up?

I know that many people have nursed through a pg, so if you don't want to stop, you don't need to. If you do want to, then decrease one feeding at a time and find something else that you guys can do together at the times you used to nurse. It sounds like she is using it to bond with you after being away from you. Is there something you could distract her with? Sometimes you just have to say no to their requests to nurse and keep trying to give them a sippy cup of milk or bottle or whatever you are going to replace it with. When I had to wean my last daughter, I tried to cuddle her as close as I would when she nursed, but I gave her whole milk instead. It took a few days and she wasn't happy about it, but she got over it. I had to wean her though because I was pg again and my dr put me on progesterone, which was not a good thing for her to have that young. If I hadn't been put on progesterone, I don't know if I would have been able to withstand her requests to nurse.

Hope you figure out what's best for you guys :) Good luck :)

I agree, unless you want to, you could continue nursing through the pregnancy and then even tandem nurse after the new baby is born.  There is some good info on that on Kellymom.com.  You just need to make sure you are taking in enough nutrition to support both the nursing and baby growing.

I weaned Liam between 13 and 14 months after I found out I was pregnant again.  We were pretty much down to morning and comfort nursings at that point though.  We just created a new routine with cups of milk and snuggling on the couch and reading books.  I also had to enlist the help of Daddy at times.  I still found that he needed the comfort nursings infrequently for a couple more months (it was also difficult for me to give up that sure fire tool I had grown attached to!).  I actually had it one time a couple of weeks after I had thought I totally weaned him that he was standing on the bed in front of me after we had taken a shower and he got this funny look on his face and all of a sudden lunged to latch on.  He caught me so off guard and I pulled away.  He wouldn't give it up until we just layed down and nursed.  That was actually the last time we nursed I think. 

 Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

 thanks for the input ladies. i really do not want to tandum nurse a toddler and a newborn, i know people do it all the time but i just don't see it happening for my family.  things ave improved since last time i posted.  right now i have it down to morning and evening. (sometimes a mid day snack before nap but i'm trying really hard to not give in) i figure i'm going to give her another month of morning and night and then try to give up one of the two for the following month.  i don't know which of the two to try to give up first because she wants them both so badly.  when i'm home at night (i work 7pm-7am) she loves to nurse to sleep and also first thing in the morning she makes the signs for "more" and "milk" over and over while grunting until i nurse her. it's so cute how determined she is and how she'd telling me exactly what she wants.  how to i get rid of these last few feedings that she LOVES so much? i really want to be completely done nursing by my 6th month of pregnancy to have a few months of freedom before i start all over. i also don't want it to be too fresh in her mind that she gets jealous watching the baby nurse and she's cut off. anyone gone through this?

what would happen if my husband took her out of town for the weekend, i didn't pump while she was away and then i just said "no more milk" and didn't even let her on the breast? would that be more traumatic? she's gone for a whole weekend without me with just sippy cups, she's fine but the moment she got home it was all about getting to the boob.  

i don't know what to do! 

My story is like yours, and almost exactly.  I am now 34 weeks pregnant and my son is 22 months old.  I finally stopped nursing him completely about a month ago. 

You just have to do it, kwim?  He actually did okay.  He cried of course, but not for long, and he adjusted very quickly.

On the other hand, it was VERY HARD on me!!!!  I was surprised at how much it hurt me, and how much I missed it.  I shed buckets of tears the first few days of no nursing.  So, be prepared for that.  I have no problem telling my son "no"...except when it came to nursing.  It felt horrible to deny him that, so THANK GOD he adjusted quickly, or I would either have caved in or would have died of a broken heart.

So, if you truly want to do this you need to be very firm on this and hold to your resolve.  It would only confuse her if you go back and forth.

Good luck!!! 

going on day 4 of not nursing...she hasn't asked for it and i haven't offered.  part of me is a little sad but mostly i'm feeling relieved to have a afew months off before i start all over again.

thanks for the support!