I just found out that my husband and I are expecting again and I should be about 6 weeks now.  We just suffered a blighted ovum in October 07.  For those of you who may not be familiar with the term, as I was not before it happened to me, a blighted ovum occurs when there are chromosomal problems during conception and although a baby never forms, the sack forms and continues to grow with no baby.  The body is "tricked' into thinking it's pregnant, HGC levels continue to climb and everything else appears normal until an ultrasound reveals that there is no baby.  It was devastating to us.  I have a four year old daughter and I was so excited about having another bundle of joy but it was quickly ripped away by medical terms I didn't understand and facing a D&C that had me scared to death.  I thank God for bringing me through the situation and seeing fit for me to have another opportunity to conceive.  I just pray that this time we will see a little baby and heartbeat in the first ultrasound.  Any prayers would be greatly appreciated!

 I'm so sorry for your loss. one of my friends had the same thing happen to her at the same time that I m/c. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Hi Kami,

I can understand what your going threw. About a year and a half ago my husband and I were thrilled after a blood pregnancy test came back positive. Twelve weeks in and i started bleeding in the middle of wal-mart. I rushed to the bathroom with my three year old running behind me and for sure I was. I left everything I was going to buy in a cart and went straight to the hospital crying the whole way. A couple hours later it was verifed that there was no baby. What was harder is they told me I was never pregant. The Dr. looked at me like I was nuts and I was bewildered that he didn't seemed to believe me. My husband and I left the hospital feeling empty and lost. It was one of the worst days in my entire life. The hardest part was telling everyone that I wasn't pregnant anymore and then trying to explain that I never was without feeling like a fool. Well thank god two days ago I got two positve pregnancy tests. I was sure that I was never going to be able to have another child after all this time trying. I'm six weeks tommorrow and I really am praying that this time it's for real. I have a Dr.'s appointment on the twenty-eight so keep your fingers crossed for me that everything works out. Hope to keep in touvh over the next 34 weeks.

Beth

Thanks for all of the positive support.  Knowing that someone else has been through what you have makes things easier sometimes.  I guess it's true that misery really does love company.  Although I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, having a support system of people who have been through the same thing makes it seem less terrifying.  We seem to have a lot in common, Beth.  I have a four year old daughter and explaining to her that she wasn't going to have a baby brother or sister afterall was the hardest part for me.  My appointment isn't scheduled until Feb 18 b/c I had to work around days off.  I had to use most of my days for the d&c and being a second year teacher, I didn't have that many to start with.  But, I have a friend who does u/s so she's going to try to scan me before then so I can take some of the worry off of my mind.  I'm so scared of having a repeat.  I just want to have an u/s and see that little baby and heartbeat this time.  I'll keep you all in my prayers and yours will be greatly appreciated as well.  God bless and best of luck.  Hopefully we can give birth to beautiful blessings from God soon.

Hi, Kami. Just wanted to let you know that you have given me hope. I, too, recently suffered a Blighted Ovum, September 25th, I was 11 1/2 weeks along......or so I thought. It was devastating. My husband and I had only been trying for 3 months, when I found out I was pregnant. I was so afraid that I would have difficulties. I have a ten year old son, and have been on birth control for irregular periods since shortly after he was born. My husband and I just got married last year, and had decided long before we got married that we wanted a child together. We were both so excited when our dream came true. The day of my initial ultrasound is pretty much a blur. I couldn't believe what they were telling us. I felt numb, and didn't want to believe it. I had not yet miscarried, so they gave me a few options. One of those being, wait out the rest of the week and the weekend, come back in for another ultrasound to confirm, then take medication to induce the miscarriage if the ultrasound had proven the suspicion. That was the option I chose. I couldn't just go ahead right then and take the prescription. I felt like I needed to give it a chance. Sadly, the next ultrasound confirmed our biggest fear. I had already accepted it as God's will, but it still hurt so badly! My husband and I decided to start trying again right away (after 1 regular cycle) So far, no luck. Last month my period was 5 days later than normal.....so disheartning (sp) Wiht my period being late, I just knew I was pregnant again....but I just kept getting Negatives on the 7 or 8 tests I took :( Then finally AF made her appearance. This month, I feel like I have several symptons that I had when I was last pregnant....bad facial acne, mild, dull headaches everyday, runny nose everyday for about 1 week, supposedly my period is due tomorrow....I took a test yesterday morning...NEGATIVE! I don't have any PMS symptons...and I usually start cramping about 3 days before AF is due.

Sorry to ramble...just felt good corresponding with someone who knows what I am going through. Please spread the baby dust! Best wishes and prayers for a healthy pregnancy.

Melodie Hinson

Melodie, stay faithful. . .when God is ready, you will have another bundle of joy to love.  We too started trying immediately after my first normal cycle which started back in November.  I was so sure that I might end up pregnant in December because we tried EVERYDAY!  But, no, we didn't.  I was disheartened so I had resolved myself to waiting a few months before trying.  We didn't try to prevent it, but we weren't trying every chance we had.  And, what do you know, I ended up pregnant.  So, I do believe that when you're not trying is when it will happen.  I have a four year old daughter and I had a storybook pregnancy with her.  No problems whatsoever so I never expected to be the person who had a miscarriage.  It just seems like it can't happen to you.  So, needlesstosay, I will be a nervous wreck when I have the first u/s.  I just pray that we have a baby this time.  I had never heard of a blighted ovum so I was very confused.  Here we were, my husband and I (who isn't my daughter's biological father, I've been married once before) so excited to see a little beating heart, especially him b/c this was his first, and there was nothing to see.  Heart wrenching to say the least.  I was so torn as to whether I should have the d&c b/c what if, just what if, they missed it.  But, I had my friend do another u/s for me as well and she took her time, looked for a long time and saw nothing.  I felt better about it all after that.  I was told that if I didn't have the d&c then it could cause infection so I went ahead with the procedure.  My body wasn't catching on to the fact that I wasn't "pregnant".  My hormones were doubling and at 8 1/2 weeks my HGC levels had reached 27,000 and were still rising.  I wanted to wait it out and let nature take it's course, but part of me wanted the nightmare to be over.  I just prayed about it and left it in God's hands, I knew he would help me make the right decision.  Having a caring, Christian doctor helped me with my decision too. 

 I'm so sorry you had to suffer the way I did.  Even though there was never a baby, it still hurts no less.  Imagining that there is a life growing inside you that you have created with the person you love and then realizing there never was anything at all hurts terrible.  I have decided that God knows better than me and He took care of a situation that could have been worse.  Having a child already, I know that it was much easier to go through this than to have to lose a child later in pregnancy or God forbid after you have them.  There could have been problems with the child's health that God knew would happen and I don't question His decisions.  I just pray His will is for this baby to be born healthy and ready for us to love.  Best wishes to you.   Don't give up hope.  You are in my prayers.

Thanks, Kami. Your words are very encouraging. Please keep me posted on your pregnancy, and I will keep you posted on my TTC.

Well, I went to the doctor yesterday.  My ultrasound has the gestational sack actually only measuring 5 weeks and 2 days.  I'm very worried b/c again they can't see anything in the sack.  The tech was not alarmed at all saying that she doesn't expect to see anything at this time anyway.  The Certified Nurse Midwife who does all new OB interviews for my doctor seemed a little concerned that she didn't at least see a fetal pole.  We are supposed to go back in 3 weeks and I have to have blood drawn every two days to make sure that my levels are rising.  I am feeling the same things I felt the last time and it's awful.  I'm so worried but trying to stay positive.  But, on top of it all, I've been diagnosed with a subchorionic bleed, which is a pool of blood between the uterine wall and placenta.  It occurs in 1.3% of all pregnancies and can cause miscarriage.  However, she said mine was small and my body would probably absorb it.  I'm so confused at how I had a perfectly healthy baby with no problems and now I'm experiencing all this trouble.  I know that God knows more than I do, and I don't question what He does, but it is hard to swallow.  I'm just praying we go back in three weeks and see a beautiful little heartbeat.  But, I'm remembering my own words and trying to stay faitful.  I know when it's time, we'll have a baby.  If anyone knows anything about these subchorionic bleeds, please let me know!  All prayers would be GREATLY appreciated.  February 13 is our date to go back.  It would be such a great V-Day present to have a little baby be there.

Hi, Kami. Just wanted to let you know that I just read your post, and I will certainly be praying for you. We'll pray for each other. I have a Doctors Appt. on Monday. I haven't had my menstrual yet this month, but on the HPT's I have taken, I am only getting Negatives or VERY faint Positives. I really don't know what to think right now.

Keep your faith, as you told me. Everything will work out as God sees fit. It's hard to accept the trials we are dealt sometimes, but God will reward us when we overcome those trials in his eyes.

Many prayers are coming your way. Please keep us informed.

Thank you for your prayers.  I will certainly remember you in mine as well.  I am very nauseated this morning so hopefully that's a good sign.  At least it means my hormone levels may be rising.  I'm going this afternoon to see if they have increased since Wednesday.  I will keep you posted.  I'm sure I won't know anything until Monday about the results.  Again, thanks for your prayers, the more the better!  Best of luck to you as well.

I received my results from the blood work.  My levels have risen to 14,853, which are in the normal range for 5-6 weeks so I'm trying not to worry.  I was hoping they would have been higher, but I guess it's good that they have at least risen.  I'll keep you informed!

Hi, kami. So glad to know that your levels are rising. That IS a very good sign. Have you found out anything more on the Subchorionic Bleed? How are you feeling.

I went to the Doctor on Monday, and.......................BFP!!!! My doctor gave me a few "Limitations", and told me to take it easy. I go back on February 20th, and they are going to do an ultrasound to rule out another Blighted Ovum. It's strange, I had more Pregnancy symptons last week than I have this week??? Not really sure what to think about that. Just praying all goes well this time.

Still praying for you as well. Take care.

Well, on Saturday I went to the bathroom and was absolutely scared out of my wits!  There was a lot of red blood that lasted for about 45 minutes to an hour.  I wasn't cramping at all and felt great otherwise.  I called the afterhours answering service for my doctor and the doctor on call said that as long as I wasn't cramping and the bleeding wasn't really, really heavy that he wanted me to rest and come in on Monday (which was yesterday).  We went in yesterday morning and were very nervous, not feeling very postiive, but when they did the u/s, there was a beautiful baby and a heartbeat.  The hemmorage was gone so that must have been the blood I lost.  The heart rate was a little low (112) but she said it was so small that it was hard to measure just yet.  The doctor didn't seem to concerned with it right now.  I go back in two weeks so please continue to pray for me!  Melodie, I will continue to ask God's hand to be upon you!  When my husband and I saw that little heartbeat, we both were brought to tears.  It's truly amazing.

Kami, you just gave me chill bumps! I'm so happy that things are still looking positive. It's wonderful that the hemmorage is gone. That's hopefully one less thing you will have to worry about. Take it easy, and get your rest. Hopefully in two weeks,  that little heartbeat will be much, much stronger!!!

Many, many prayers are beng made for you....today & everyday!!